What is “SACRED UNION”?
SACRED UNION is a living hypothesis; a mission to bring men and women together in synchrony and harmony …
Sacred Union is what happens when 150 men and women come together for a 3-Day co-ed Weekend Immersion in Austin, Texas.
But the first big revelation landed before the first guests had even arrived:
Going into the weekend, we asked every participant to share in the group WhatsApp thread their major struggles, complaints, and challenges in their relationships with men and women.
We then took EVERYONE’s response … and put it into ChatGPT …
then we asked ChatGPT to summarize the content. It spit out the following TWO SENTENCES:
1) “WOMEN don’t trust MEN.”
2) “MEN don’t trust MEN, or THEMSELVES.”
And there it WAS:
…the PROGNOSIS.
…the POST-MORTEM.
…the “TRUTH” of what we’re up against in our culture laid out in stark, inexorable simplicity.
Wow.
How did we get here?
What has happened to us?
Why are over HALF of modern marriages ending in divorce?
Why are people having less sex?
Why are people in fewer and fewer relationships?
Why is the culture war winning out over loving, lasting relating?
TWO REASONS, as I see it:
1) For the last 60 years, our culture has been teaching us that MEN are the problem. And both women and men have been listening and internalizing ever since.
2) And, because NO ONE ever taught us ANYTHING about how to have a healthy, flourishing relationship.
No one taught us because no one taught our parents.
Our their parents, or their grandparents’ parents …
— So, how can a man come to trust himself if no one taught him how to be trustable?
— How do men come to trust men if they have been betrayed, neglected, bullied, or abused by men?
— How do women come to trust men if they have been taught all their lives that masculinity is toxic, that “the Patriarchy” is to blame for all the wounds of society, and if they themselves have had bad experiences and less than desirable encounters with men?
So many wounds to heal. For me, for you, for us.
The thing about SACRED UNION is, NO ONE needs it more than ME.
I TEACH this work because I NEED this work. I teach this work because I have FAILED at this work - over and over and over again.
Ask my ex-fiance.
Ask all the former partners who joined me in the trenches over the decades, trying to make sense of our childhood wounds as we fought against ourselves and each other, struggling to strive towards some semblance of love, care, and right-relationship.
But the gravity of my old stories, childhood wounds, and the subconscious beliefs I held about myself and the world were too much.
I failed.
I failed myself and my partners, over and over again.
The truth is, NO ONE taught any of us how to be in romantic partnership.
NO ONE taught any of us how to communicate maturely and skillfully.
NO ONE taught us the sensual and sexual arts.
NO ONE taught us how to attract, polarize and sustain a relationship over time.
So how do we break the cycle?
How do we bring in something new?
What does that work even look like?
SACRED UNION is a living hypothesis; a mission to bring men and women together in synchrony and harmony.
SACRED UNION is a way of teaching men and women to women and men for the sake of us all.
SACRED UNION is an attempt to discover a path back to each other in the spirit and practice of Community.
We are being taught as we are teaching, and the real wisdom is coming from the collective. I am still blown away by the whole experience, particularly what happened that final morning when our collective group intelligence spilled open and the entire room was filled and moving with the “Spirit” of something beyond all of us—heart-wrenching admissions and soul-searching testimony in service to us all ….
It is both something new and at the same time something very, very old. It stems from many ancient traditions, and blends all the wisdom of modern neuroscience and psychology.
The work is bringing men and women back together to DE-MYSTIFY ourselves to each other again.
Because there are ways to speak to and be with MEN that absolutely SHUT him down, and there are ways to speak to and be with men that absolutely BRING HIM ALIVE and inspire him into his greatness.
And because there are ways to relate to WOMEN that objectify and dull her radiance, and then there are ways to help women feel safe and loved to the degree that they open beyond both of your wild dreams or expectations.
As MEN, how do we actually do the work to be able to trust ourselves when most of us were never initiated into manhood in any meaningful way?
There is a Path to trust- a path for men, but it is a path made by walking. No one can give it to you, just as no one gave it to me. But the Masculine Rites ARE returning to the world, and only YOU can bring back the frequency and fullness of the potent, powerful Masculinity women and world are starving for. Only you….
To that end, the next battalion of “The King’s Code” will kick off March 23rd. It is a 5-month Men’s Initiatory Group program. If you’re interested, you can check out our website, or send me a message and we can talk about it man-to-man. Our program may not be for you, but there are many programs out there. Find one that resonates with you and walk it all the way.
For the WOMEN: How do you do the work of clearing the RESENTMENTS you carry towards men? How can you learn to trust men again, even as they themselves are still doing the work to become trustable? In my experience, there is nothing more impactful a woman can do for herself and the world than this. How can you acknowledge and honor the men in your life? Just try it, and see what happens. Women’s Work is a pivotal part of the path home to the Goddess. HERE is a good place to start, with two women I love and trust.
I love you all, and welcome any and all questions, comments, and curiosities when it comes to this work. I will always be it’s student, and am humbled to presume to teach it from time to time.
I love you all, and welcome any and all questions, comments, and curiosities when it comes to this work. I will always be it’s student, and am humbled to presume to teach it from time to time.
Stay tuned for more, along with WEEKLY episodes of “The (Re)Masculation Podcast”. The fur is flying, and the conversations are flowing. Here we go, Family. Here we go.
Many blessings, Family. And much love.
Heart & Sword,
Mikaal
